The Truth About Love

Love is a painful, poignant, touching attempt by two flawed individuals to try and meet each other’s needs in situations of gross uncertainty and ignorance about who they are and who the other person is.

Alain de Botton

Alain de Botton, British philosopher and author, is the founder and Chairman of The School of Life, a London-based organization dedicated to helping people lead more resilient and fulfilled lives. His New York Times essay, “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” is one of the most-read Times articles of the past several years. Krista Tippett’s interview of Mr. de Batton (“The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships“) is one of the most listened-to episodes of On Being since the inception of the podcast.

Let This Darkness Be a Bell Tower

Quiet friend who has come so far,

feel how your breathing makes more space around you.
Let this darkness be a bell tower and you the bell. As you ring,

what batters you becomes your strength.
Move back and forth into the change.
What is it like, such intensity of pain?
If the drink is bitter, turn yourself to wine.

In this uncontainable night,
be the mystery at the crossroads of your senses,
the meaning discovered there.

And if the world has ceased to hear you,
say to the silent earth: I flow.
To the rushing water, speak: I am.

Sonnets to Orpheus II, 29
Rainer Maria Rilke
Translated by Joanna Macy and Anita Barrows